20.5. Don’t lose peace over something you can’t control.
We’ve said it a few times now: control is an illusion. If the pandemic hasn’t proven that to us, we are not awake.
When our daughters were in high school they learned that “friends,” whom they thought were loyal, could be competitive, mean and cunning. As a protective father and a typical guy who wanted to fix it, Kevin would listen, empathize and strategize with our girls. In the process, it was tempting to get wrapped around the emotional axel of trying to control an outcome. After all, you’re only as happy as your least happy child, right?
The odd thing was, after going on the emotional roller coaster with them, Kevin was blown away by the fact that one of the mean girls, who participated in some very unbecoming behavior, was having a sleepover with one of our girls. WTF! This girl, who was no longer welcome in our home, was back to being chummy with our daughter.
At this point, Kevin learned that control is an illusion and peace was found by not getting sucked into the drama, by refusing to get on the roller coaster.
What roller coasters are you on? Make this the year of getting off.