4 Desires of Her Heart
Passion is fleeting. Intimacy will last a lifetime, if you work at it.
While passion ignites the flames in a relationship early on, the truth is, passion declines over time!
It’s true that intimacy will last a lifetime and it begins with ongoing and deeply meaningful emotional connection.
But here’s the fundamental truth: for women, an emotional connection is the gateway to physical intimacy and that fans the flames of passion. On the flip side, men often seek physical intimacy as a means to establish emotional connection.
This week we offer 4 heartfelt desires of women and next week we’ll let you in on the 4 desires of men.
So, what are the desires of the heart for women?
1. Understanding:
Women yearn to feel understood on a deep level. It begins with genuine interest and listening to understand (not to fix). Allow her the space to express herself without feeling the need to solve her problems.
More often than not, she seeks empathy, not solutions. Acknowledge and validate her feelings.
Showing her that you understand her perspective fosters a sense of connection that transcends words and leads to connection and desire.
2. Acknowledgement:
Women want to feel seen and valued for who they truly are.
This means being fully present in the moment, offering undivided attention, no smartphones and other distractions.
Block focused and dedicated time to show interest in her thoughts, ideas, and emotions. By simply holding her hand as she speaks you’ll convey that she is your top priority.
When you validate her experiences, you validate her and that will grow her connection to you and deepen her desire.
3. Security:
Consistency, reliability, and trustworthiness are paramount. Above all, women crave a sense of safety in their relationships. Women desire partners who exude strength and decisiveness without veering into dominance or control.
Make it safe for her to be vulnerable and authentic with you without fear of judgment, criticism or rejection.
Be her rock in times of uncertainty. Show up for her in both the celebrations and tribulations of life. Doing so demonstrates that you have her back and you’ll support her unconditionally.
When you foster a relationship of this kind of security she will trust you at a deep level, continue to connect and desire more of you.
4. Anticipation:
There’s an undeniable allure in being anticipated and cherished. Small gestures of thoughtfulness and surprises speak volumes, reaffirming her significance in your life and igniting her desire for you.
Take the time to understand her needs and expectations, and then go above and beyond to exceed them!
Do little things, start the car, bring her coffee, leave a note of encouragement, send her an “I am for you” or an “I’m thinking of you” text.
Anticipate her fears, wants and needs, show her you know her at a profound level and do whatever-it-takes to deeply invest in her well-being.
Bonus #5. Adventure:
Another way to increase passion and connection in a relationship is by engaging in exciting activities with your partner (going on a trip together, taking a cooking class and even hiking in nature). These novel exciting, shared activities are associated with increased relationship well-being, sexual desire, and YEP… increased passion.
Although it is relatively easy to engage in exciting activities at the beginning of relationships, in established ones, couples may need to actively add novelty and excitement to the relationship to maintain passion.
If you want to deepen your connection and ignite more passion, we invite you to join us at our “Twogether” As One Adventure Couples Retreat this summer.
Stay tuned for Part Two, where we delve into the heartfelt aspirations of men, uncovering the secrets to mutual understanding, passion, and lasting love.
As we journey through the depths of connection and intimacy for both women and men, remember that the bonds we forge with our partners are the cornerstone of enduring love and fulfillment. By anticipating and embracing our respective needs for empathy, being fully present, and modeling reliability, we pave the way for profound connections that transcend the ordinary and ignite the extraordinary.
Together, let’s continue to unlock the mysteries of the heart and nurture relationships that illuminate our lives with boundless joy and fulfillment.
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